You need some help. I'm constantly depressed, I cba looking after my baby, my other children get no attention. Hi-5 star ânot copingâ with motherhood | Chronicle AUSSIE actress and former Hi-5 star Lauren Brant has opened up about her struggles with being a new mum, saying â¦ Positive parenting advice is now at your fingertips. No wonder you're stressed and down! Add message | Report. I’m sorry you are finding it so difficult. Please force yourself to go to the GP. I urge you to seek help from your GP and be open to whatever they suggest. Physical Signs Youâre Not Coping. I love being around children and feel I have a gift. Currently pregnant with No. I cry most nights partly from sheer exhaustion, partly from being so sad that I have nobody around me. I know I'll get my mojo back and I know Miller and I will work it out. We all got so much out of it!Do you have any nieces / cousins who could maybe do similar? New mothers also often report being embarrassed or ashamed to admit they are not coping. I was just crying all the time and remember desperately thinking I just don't want to feel like this.I took Anti-Depressants ( a type that allowed me to continue to breast feed) and, although I was not Mrs Happy, it took the edge off the awful murderous shitty feelings and I could carry on. I just want some peace, I honestly don't feel like it's pnd. I can't believe I'm writing this down but I feel like I need to get it out as it's eating me alive and I can't come to speak the words out loud to anyone as I feel so ashamed I feel this way. Firstly, sending to ia huge hug. 1 synonym for motherhood: maternity. Becoming a mom causes an upheaval, not only in â¦ I love children. You made it through nine months of pregnancy and hours of labor or surgery, not to mention that annoying stay in the hospital immediately afterwards. I agree with others-if it’s at the stage where you wish you were dead, you need treatment for depression. One of the best ways that mothers can reduce stress is to revel in the joy of motherhoodâto really enjoy their kids and make the most of all the gifts and benefits that come with being a mother. I realise it's the last thing you feel like but you must go and talk to a doctor, you will feel better getting it out, I promise. Mine are 8 weeks. Here's the biggest news you missed this weekend. The Oscar-winning actress is used to the glitz and glamour of Hollywood. You will look back at think, shit, that was so hard.Try to get out of the house as much as you can - walk to park etc - and let them watch tv afterwards.Hang in there. I couldn't even bf and feel like such a failure from it. What are synonyms for motherhood? The fiancé will work itself out. I found the new born stage the worst. Sorry I know it seems tough but ‘cba’ is just not good enough. I coloured in with them and generally kept them entertained. âI love Miller with all my heart and I love being a mother, HIS mother! I worked as a babysitter, nanny, au pair, teacher. When I was first diagnosed with depression it had taken me months of feeling utterly awful to admit I needed help. I know I'll get my mojo back and I know Miller and I will work it out. I'd go to gp for yourself but also sounds like baby could have cmpa so I'd also ask gp to see if you can trial a non dairy formula for a while. Please ring your gp in the morning and tell them that it's urgent! I was exactly the same, I told my husband that I wanted to go back to work because I hated being at home with the baby. Your little ones need you, I promise they do.Trigger- a young woman locally took her life a few months ago leaving 2 teens and a pre schooler. You poor thing. Definitely sounds like CMPA to me. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. We idolize celebrity moms who, after having given birth to twins, get their famous figures back seemingly overnight, while "regular" moms struggle with baby-weight forever. This is not like some books that basically have the tone that as a stay at home mother we should feel privileged and not have anything to complain about. Motherhood is tough and the newborn stage is challenging. And my spouse is not as helpful as I thought he would be with parenting. This absolutely won't last forever, I promise you.Talk to your fiancé, I'm sure he'd rather be there with you. Read their coping with motherhood tips. Have you spoken to your DH or your mum. If you are wishing you were dead it genuinely does sound like Depression which could just be temporary because you're sleep deprived but is worth seeking help for if it carries on. If Dp is home at 5 then he def should be doing his share whilst you sleep. Parenting is hard enough but a baby with silent reflux is horrendous. Sending hugs! Newborn just screams as soon as she's put down.I don't deserve to have children with feeling like this. ‘Cba’ is something young teenagers say. I can't imagine how hard that must be. My older child just throws toys constantly, answers back and shouts at me.The house is a tip, I've no money to do anything nice with the kids not that I even have the energy. I can't even take them all out because I don't have a double pram and can't afford one God what a mess. Mine wanted to feed lots to soothe her sore throat and tummy but then it made it worse and became a horrible vicious cycle. Even a babysitter once a week for a few hours? It's really fucking tough! Fuck sake @30hours I'll no not to go to your for sympathy @greenkiteZ however blunt, she is right.. "So today... has sucked!" Hope you feel better soon x, When I was a young teen I used to spend a lot of time with my mum's sister who had 5 kids under 6. Every day is just absolute shit. I was adamant I'd feel better soon. How to Survive the First Month of New Motherhood. Hi-5 star ânot copingâ with motherhood ... "I really need to find balance again, cause today - I admit I am just not coping. by Kat Nicholls on 12 September 2018 Read in . It's probably just harder to recognise from the inside but we can see it from the outside. Would you like to test Pura’s eco nappies or plastic free baby wipes? Please, please go and see your gp, and tell them what you've written here. Wisconsin's completed recount confirms Biden's victory over Trump. Read more... We speak to 30 mums who have been there, done that and lived to laugh about it! You don’t have to feel like thIs. I’m sure other people have told you but no one is going to take your baby away for feeling this way. 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